Deep thanks to Aisha of @full_flight_wellness and others who came together to create this healing justice offering serving BIPOC organizers in Portland. I feel so fortunate and proud to be able to participate. Healers from multiple disciplines encompassing movement, mental health, naturopathy, plant medicine, energy work and much more are participating. Please share with your networks! Visit radicalrest.org for a full list of providers and their offerings. . . [ID: (1st slide reads:) Radical Rest Healing Justice POP-up BIPOC Healing Justice Offerings Free/donation/low cost June 19th-26th, 2020 Portland, OR www.radicalrest.org (2nd slide onward contains the Radical Rest manifesto. Full manifesto available at radicalrest.org)] . . #bipochealing #radicalrest #healingjustice #popup #pdx #portlandoregon #mentalhealth #yoga #plantmedicine #mindfulness #tarot #energywork #bipocorganizers #blmportland #aligncounsel

A note about this. I want to take accountability for something. I posted earlier this week about “muting” myself in support of black creators and centering their voices at this time. I did so because I saw accounts I respected taking this action, and at the time it seemed like a supportive action. It later came to my attention, through thoughtful/critical feedback like @lovingmeafterwe provided, that this action is also a way of “opting out” of the conversation. I also realized that the original post about the challenge did not ask or suggest that white folks mute themselves or cease speaking on these issues (it was an invitation/challenge for folks to mute non-BIPOC accounts from their feeds and notice the impact of this). So in this, I didn’t think things through completely and failed to identify the harmful impacts my actions might have (even if in my mind my intentions were “good”), and more gravely I did not fully and carefully listen to black women. I apologize for this and regret any harm it may have caused. I will commit to think more critically and take time with my response in the future.⠀ ⠀ Something big I’ve been sitting with in all of this, and have been speaking to other white/non-black folks about, is fear of showing up wrong. But in conversation with other therapists today it became clear that we can never do enough. The very idea that there is something that one person could do that is “enough” to completely counteract White Supremacy is a fallacy. My aspirational hope for myself, and my fellow white folks, is that we do show up, as imperfectly as we are, to try to make change. ⠀ ⠀ TL;DR: Don’t stay muted. Show up. Make mistakes. Take accountability. Make change, together.⠀ ⠀ Image description and important notes in the comments.

[This post is made with love + support towards the Black community, but my words below are directed towards my fellow white folks.]⠀ ⠀ Breathe in. Breathe out. ⠀ ⠀ Take these words in. Notice if discomfort comes up.⠀ ⠀ If discomfort comes up, that’s ok. Just notice it. Don’t rush to fix or change anything.⠀ ⠀ Fixing our discomfort isn’t urgent. We may never completely get there. It’s important to learn to sit in this place of discomfort. We can build that tolerance for discomfort together.⠀ ⠀ What is urgent is protecting Black lives. They matter, and they are in grave danger. Have been for a long time.⠀ ⠀ Listen to Black voices. Keep your ears open. Hold space for your discomfort but don’t react from that place. Process it with conscious white friends or a competent therapist. Please don’t ask for labor from BIPOC.⠀ ⠀ Take action. See if you can push the boundaries of your comfort zone. See if you can pay attention to whether you are in danger, or just uncomfortable.⠀ ⠀ Breathe in. Breathe out. It’s ok to go slowly in processing your discomfort. We can hold space for discomfort and listen and take action at the same time.⠀ ⠀ In solidarity with Black creators I will be participating in @blackandembodied and @jessicawilson.msrd ‘s⠀ call to #amplifymelanatedvoices and refrain from posting from June 1st-7th. I will share some accounts to follow in my stories.⠀ ⠀ [image description: text that reads “Black lives matter” x 3]⠀ ⠀ #blacklivesmatter #justiceforgeorgefloyd #counselorsforsocialjustice #therapistsofinstagram #aligncounsel

#repost via @quotesbychristie “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” ~Martin Luther King Jr. #justiceforgeorgefloyd #justiceforahmaud . . . I’m still sitting with overwhelm and deep sadness about the continuing violence towards black bodies in this country. I have so appreciated the posts from many fellow #therapistsofinstagram talking about these important issues, standing in solidarity and explaining why we can’t remain silent. Remaining silent is not apolitical, it’s violent, and I can’t show up as a healer/helper and simultaneously perpetuate violence. . For my fellow white folks looking to act in the face of injustice, a few possible places to start: following @/ Rachel.cargle or @/ theconsciouskid and looking into their Patreons for unlearning racism (in addition to all the amazing work they do for free!), look into your local chapter of SURJ (showing up for racial justice) or google the Medium article “75 things white people can do for racial justice.”

Any other (recovering) perfectionists out there? I see you! Want to journal together for a moment?📝⠀ ⠀ Some things I know/think/believe about perfectionism (in no particular order):⠀ ⠀ ▫️It's not only unrealistic but ignores the beauty of what it is to be in progress.⠀ ⠀ ▫️It's unattainable and that's ok. I/you/we are still ok, good, whole.⠀ ⠀ ▫️I think it's related to industrious strategies. Let me digress about this for a moment...⠀ In some of the work I do (Hakomi) we talk about character strategies... essentially coping strategies that spring from core beliefs that spring from childhood wounding. If in childhood we only (or most often) get praise for accomplishment, we can develop the belief that our work/production is the source of our value. Hence the strategy to produce produce produce and of course, be perfect about it.⠀ ⠀ ▫️I also think it's related to capitalism and white supremacy. Our culture puts a high value on production and in fact ties it to our survival/value. Our culture also has narrow definitions of what is acceptable/right/beautiful. Body image ideals are just one example that we are inundated with. These are big things. We absorb this conditioning.⠀ ⠀ I encounter perfectionism with clients, often the "I know I'm still growing around this and I'm frustrated I haven't got it right yet" version of it. There is irony in it and often we can laugh about it, and also there is pain underneath it too.⠀ ⠀ There's more here but caption limits. Feel free to journal with me below!👇🏻And check out the link in my bio if you're considering working on perfectionism with a therapist 🤍⠀ ⠀ #selfworth #selfesteem #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #health #holistic #intution #motivation #mindfulliving #mindbodyspirit #healing #perfectionism #perfectgirl #workaholicproblems #workaholic #journalprompts #mindfulness #therapy #therapytalk #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #anxiety #anxietyrecovery #portland #pdxtherapist #queertherapist #aligncounsel

💔If you’re struggling with self love, if it feels unreal or impossible, I see you.⠀ ⠀ 🤲🏼Let me let you in on a secret: ⠀ ⠀ Before I loved myself, I thought it had to start as a feeling. And it often felt hopeless because I couldn’t manufacture that. I never had a sudden shift or insight that made me love myself more, and I certainly never willed myself into feeling it... but with consistency and time, the more I took care of myself, the more I grew to like, respect, and love myself.⠀ ⠀ 🙇🏻If you’re struggling to figure out this self love thing therapy is a great place to unpack what feels stuck and explore your relationship to your worth. Oregon residents can book a free virtual consultation—link in bio.⠀ ⠀ [Image description: text that reads: “Loving yourself is a tricky concept. If you’ve been conditioned to not know your worth it’s absolutely foreign at first. But loving yourself isn’t simply a feeling, in fact it rarely starts that way. Loving yourself is a practice. Connect with and care for yourself first. The love will flow from this.”]⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #selfworth #selfesteem #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #health #holistic #intution #motivation #mindfulliving #mindbodyspirit #healing #mindfulness #therapy #therapytalk #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #anxiety #anxietyrecovery #portland #pdxtherapist #queertherapist #aligncounsel

👉🏻Do you fall in the treat yo’ self trap?👈🏻⠀ ⠀ Let me share a few thoughts on self-care vs self-treats...⠀ ⠀ First of all, self-treats are not bad!! All these things can fall under the umbrella of self-care.⠀ ⠀ However, if you often find yourself indulging and rarely attend to care + maintenance, you may have fallen in the treat yo’ self trap!⠀ ⠀ Self-care doesn’t always look like fun. Oftentimes, it is literal *care* - making sure we are fed, watered, getting enough sleep + activity 🌮💧😴🤸🏼‍♀️⠀ ⠀ Don’t shame yourself for indulgences but don’t forget to attend to these equally important aspects of self-care💞⠀ ⠀ If you need support in creating self-care routines or are experiencing blocks around giving yourself care, a skilled therapist can help! Oregon residents can visit the link in my bio to learn more or schedule a free virtual consultation💻⠀ ⠀ [Image description: side by side list comparing self care vs self treats. Lists read:⠀ Self treats⠀ Binging netflix for hours⠀ Splurge purchases⠀ Sleeping in all morning⠀ Couch time⠀ Social media scrolling⠀ ⠀ Self care⠀ Getting to bed on time⠀ Making a budget⠀ Consistent sleep schedule⠀ Outside time⠀ Mental stimulation]⠀ ⠀ #treatyoself #selfcare #selflove #netflix #budget #socialmedia #mindfulness #mindfulliving #mindbodyspirit #healing #therapy #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #pdxtherapist #queertherapist #portland #portlandoregon #virtualtherapy #onlinetherapy #aligncounsel

✨Inspired by the journeys we take and the lessons we learn in therapy + personal healing, I wanted to do a series on what can happen when we do the work. ⠀ ⠀ 🌟One thing that I see happen for clients (and that I also personally resonate with) is reclaiming love of self. I think it’s a tricky one and seems honestly impossible at first. I find this shift happens more first in the doing - making yourself a priority, showing material care - in a sense, teaching the self that you matter. The shifts that come with this over time are profound. ⠀ ⠀ 💫How are you doing these days? Has reclaiming self-love been part of your journey?⠀ ⠀ [image description: Illustration of person with long hair, wearing a crop top looking directly ahead, with text that reads “These days I’m // Loving myself more”]⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #selfworth #selfesteem #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #mindset #health #holistic #intution #motivation #mindfulliving #mindbodyspirit #healing #dothework #mindfulness #therapy #therapytalk #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #anxiety #anxietyrecovery #portland #pdxtherapist #somatictherapyportland #queertherapist #aligncounsel

Re-post from @quotesbychristie ... 💗 . [image description: Quote from Walt Whitman: “I exist as I am, that is enough.”] . . #Selfworth #pdxtherapist #anxiety #selflove #queertherapist #youareenough #qotd #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #motivation #healing #holistic #mindfulness #mindbodyspirit #aligncounsel

🌱We are always changing + growing. And since language is so powerful I’d like to share this gentle reframe with you:⠀ ⠀ In the loving community of therapists where I received the bulk of my advanced training, when critical feedback was given, we used the term “growing edges.” Not flaws or weaknesses. I love this because it shines a light on the fact that we are imperfect beings and that’s ok (and to be expected!) It helps us focus not on flaws or failures but opportunities and potential.⠀ ⠀ 🤲🏼May we all embrace ourselves exactly as we are in this moment, even as we tend to our growing edges.⠀ ⠀ 🌿Looking for help tending to your growing edges? I’m accepting new telehealth clients in Oregon. Follow the link in bio to book a free consultation.⠀ ⠀ ⠀ [image description: line drawing of a hand holding a small plant and falling leaves with text that reads: “What are your growing edges?”]⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #potential #personalgrowth #growthmindset #selfworth #selfesteem #selflove #selfcompassion #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #health #holistic #intution #motivation #mindfulliving #mindbodyspirit #healing #mindfulness #therapy #therapytalk #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #virtualtherapypdx #anxiety #anxietyrecovery #portland #pdxtherapist #queertherapist #aligncounsel